„The path is like a busy broad highway, complete with roadblocks, accidents, construction work, and police. It is quite terrifying. Nevertheless it is majestic, it is the great path”. – Chogyam Trungpa
Healing our personal, elemental connection with the phenomenal world, by becoming willing to open up, without resistance or shyness: all of this is threatening and seemingly exhausting, demanding and energy consuming. At some point, we need to stop identifying with our weaknesses. It is uncomfortable to feel so real, completely exposed to anyone we meet. Fearlessness is a question of learning how to be. Be there all along.
In the ordinary sense, renunciation is often connected with asceticism. You give up the world and embrace an austere spiritual life in order to understand the higher meaning of existence. If we “change” the context, renunciation is quite different. What the one renounces is anything in his experience that is a barrier between himself and others.
Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us, not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. The sort of silence that is a place of acceptance of someone as they are. We are all hungry for this other silence. It its presence we can remember something beyond the moment, a strength on which to build a life. Silence is a place of great power and healing.
The ego can convert anything to its own use. If we can accept our imperfections as they are, quite ordinarily, then we can use it as part of the path. The struggle to eliminate ego’s heavy hand is merely another expression of ego. The universe is made up of experiences that are designed to burn out our attachment. As long as there is a place where we are vulnerable, the universe will find a way to confront as with it. We go around and around, trying to „improve ourselves”. Insights come only when there are gaps in our struggle.